You can easily fall between helping and advising. To the aging adult they may perceive this as “taking over”.
As hard as it is to hear, as concerned as you are about your aging loved one is, remember, it is not your life. Your parent is not a child.
You feel as if the roles have been reversed. It is critical that you become a better communicator. Many aging adults alienate themselves from family member. They come to mistrust one or even all of the family members. Often, family members cannot agree on what needs to be addressed and what is best for the aging adult. It is important to preserve your family relationships.
Family dynamics change as the aging adult declines physically and/or mentally. Many families do not address the issues of the aging adult until a crisis occurs.
Hasty decisions are made. Lifelong sibling dynamics can result in hurt feelings. And hostility ensues toward the decision maker. One study found … 40 percent of adult children providing assistance reported serious conflict with a sibling. It was usually related to lack of sufficient help from that sibling.
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