Dealing with Caregiver Guilt Donna Harris writes in from Troy, OH I live with my 94 year old mother. I have been caring for her for 10 plus years. Some days are better than others.
I have learned so much through Alzheimer Assoc and online caregiver groups. I want to pass on any tips or information I can to help the insanity that other adult children might face.
I have 3 adult children and 4 grandchildren that I barely spent any time with for fear of guilt.
Well through the years and learning from other adult children I am now strong enough to say NO and take care of myself. I do spend time with my kids and grand babies now with no guilt.
Sure I am not a perfect caregiver but I sure am better now than I was a year ago.
I want to pass on anything and everything that could help others. Strength, hope and experience is what I have learned through this journey.
I do have a blog that I share different ideas and tips, so please visit at http://donnagharris.com and also visit my FB Fanpage http://facebook.com/caregivingessentials
I wish you well ~
by Donna G Harris
(Troy, Ohio USA)
Thank you so much for sharing your pictures and caregiving journey with us. I really appreciate your mention of the emotion of guilt.
Family care givers may not realize that guilt is the cause of many poor decisions. By that I mean, many care givers make decisions to do something that they really do not want to do, but feel that they must. They do not take everything into consideration. Guilt clouds their judgement.
The result is, over time, the care giver ( also known as the care partner) develops feelings of anger, frustration, resentment and rage. This causes chronic stress for the care partner. There are strategies to overcome caregiver guilt.
Studies show that chronic stress causes health problems. I cannot tell you how many times I come across the family care partner that is admitted to the hospital or that has developed a serious illness.
Family care partners really need to take all parties into account- and that includes themselves. Making a decision out of guilt will only end up with negative consequences.
Donna, I hope you will continue to keep us updated on your journey as a care partner. I would love to hear from you.