Caregiver asking for help…
This is actually for my husband. He is a caregiver for his step father. This situation is impossible. My husband and I are living at “G-Pa’s” house so he can stay in his own home for the rest of his life. (he is 91)
I feel moving in with him for 5 years has been enough. Now he came back home after a 3 month stay in a rehab nursing home after a broken femur. He is even more demented than before, is now in a wheel chair instead of being ambulatory.
He is in diapers, doesn’t say when he has to go and my husband is continually cleainng up feces. I just got out of the hospital for a hip replacement. This house is too small for all of us and there is only 1 bathroom. The problems go on.
There comes a time when an alternative setting should be considered. I am a very strong advocate for trying to keep a family member at home for as long as possible. I do not feel that this should be accomplomlished at teh expense of the caregiver.
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