A Time for Grieving and Healing, A Caregiver’s Story
Submitted by Melonie Smith Harrell
Today, I saw a man that looked just like my dad. He was dressed in nice clothes but they were now too big for him. I saw a handsome gentleman with a silver beard but his face was so slim. He smiled at me but the corner of his mouth didn’t rise naturally anymore.
The man had beautiful blue eyes, but today they didn’t pierce my soul with unconditional love. He spoke of wanting to go somewhere but couldn’t tell me where he wanted to go. A precious treasure of his mother’s I took to him, but he looked at it and had no recollection of where or whom it belonged. Inside the box, he found a picture of his mother, but he could not remember if she was alive and well or dead and gone.
In 6 short months the physically changes in my dad are so apparent but the mental changes in him are magnified as well. Gone are the days of him asking what have I been doing or about my kids? Gone are the tender moments of him talking about his grandma and grandpa. Gone are the days of him asking for opinions on a project he had started. Never again will Daddy tell me to sit on his knee so that he can pat my back and tell me everything is going to be okay.
Tonight I realize that, Time doesn’t heal anything; it just teaches us how to live with the pain. It is my prayer that our hearts find the time to accept what our minds cannot.
In His Love -Melonie
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
2 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.