A search for balance when providing care for another does not come easy. Balance in life is necessary to be a good caregiver. As part of our Faith in Caregiving series, Veronica addresses this issue.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
How do you feel when someone in a grocery store check-out line puts your needs above theirs and lets you move through the line ahead of them?
I often thought about how love repeats itself; my mother and my stepfather George were always there for me when I needed them, showering love on me. Now it was my turn to love and support them and sometimes value their needs above my own. An example was when I was looking forward to some me time, but stormy weather sent my assistant home early. I wasn’t happy about it, but never the less, I stepped in and took care of my parents for the rest of the day. Of course, my free time wasn’t gone forever, just temporarily put on hold.
God not only wants you to love and value others, but yourself as well. You are His child, and He wants you to be well and happy. If you are an unpaid caregiver, you are valuing your loved one above yourself in numerous situations. It is important for you to take good care of yourself by getting a healthy amount of rest and relaxation. Then your energy level will be strong enough to get you through the sacrifices you make each day.
When you put someone else’s needs above your own, how does it make you feel when you are well-rested? When you feel overworked and tired?
Generous Lord Jesus, thank you for being a living example – by making the ultimate sacrifice of your life for our salvation. Show me how to love as you have loved and how to value the person I care for without neglecting my own needs. Give me a sense of balance in living out each day. In your name I pray. Amen.