My mother has Alzheimers dementia and wants to continue to handle her finances. What do I do?, asks Shea, in Tennessee.
I have financial POA that allows me to handle my mother’s finances. What I don’t know is if I am legally obligated to return her checkbook is she requests. It is, after all, her money and she should be able to spend or squander if she chooses. I realize that my motives are not objective in handling her finances.
She has had her utilities shut off, spent money on things she did not need and was over or under paying the amounts on any bills by hundreds of dollars.
She asks me for her check book several times a day and has threatened to call the police and report it stolen.
Do you have any suggestions on how to handle this situation?
This is a difficult situation many care givers face when a family member is suffering from Alzheimers dementia. There is a simple solution to this problem.
Here is website that offers a solution to your problem: http://www.enasco.com/product/9719668C. This is a fake check system that would allow your mother to continue to write checks ( of course they are not REAL checks). Of course, you will have to have access to her accounts and pay her bills online, or have the bills sent to your home address.
It is important to remember that you will need to try different communication techniques between you and your mother as her disease progresses.
It is important to focus on an individuals abilities and strengths, not what they are no longer able to do.
If they can still write and want to attempt to pay checks, then this is a solution that continues to allow them to do that with out affecting their self esteem or destroying their financial status. It is a win-win for all involved.
Thank you for this question.
Diane Carbo RN